Need a Nudge? Here’s a few.

You know when you’re sick of facing the same sh** each and every day?  Not speaking of people and situations, I’m speaking of your own internal (read: mental) garbage that traps inside of a limited (read: tunnel vision) view of the world and how it works?

But, wait — you may say.  How do you even realize that you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired?

Easy.  You have no energy.  You cannot settle on any one thing that you want to do.  You dream of doing things and then find EVERY single reason on the planet you cannot get it done now (or, ever).  A bleak outlook on life.

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That’s how you know.

What am I leading up to?  Got no clue.  I just came back from vacation! 🙂  I’m still floating on high from the sun, the gorgeous skies and the clear crystalline sea water. <sigh>

However, back in New York, on the train?  I see faces that are sick and tired of even thinking about their situations.  I see frustration, anger, anxiety.  I see pain on so many faces that are desperately trying to distract themselves from their doldrums with technology and entertainment distractions.

What do you do about it?

Find your passion.  Or, if you can’t find that — find something that interests you.  That makes you smile. That makes you want to interact with others in a manner that approaches normalcy.

Try kayaking on the Hudson River (it’s really a strait but, hey — that’s nitpicking, right?).  It’s absolutely FREE and you’ll definitely get shaken up a bit.

Or, why not try something new like experiencing an escape room game?  Komnata Quest has several locations — Long Island City and in Greenpoint, Brooklyn.  They’re opening up a new location in Manhattan later this year.  Get lost for an hour in a robbery heist — you’re the robber!  Or, why not get locked in a box and have to use your noodle to escape?  (If that doesn’t get you out of your comfort zone I don’t know what will!)

Or, why not go hiking upstate?  New York State is gorgeous especially this time of year when the trees are beginning to turn.  Saratoga Springs is a great place to visit.  And, you can visit the racetrack when you’re there!  (Ooops, race course only open in the summer.)

Perhaps these things are too far off the beaten track (pun intended).

What about discovering a new social media platform that’s a combination of FaceBook, Ebay and WordPress all wrapped up in an easy-to-use interface?  And, it has an app, of course!  You get to click through folks’ hilarious updates.  See their pics (or, close your eyes praying you’ll never see that image EVER again…).  And, you can go shopping for cool stuff, read blogs, and join groups with common interests — all in one spot.  Check it out here.

If none of these suggestions move you in any way — hey — I tried! 🙂

Seriously, stay sane by seeking what makes you happy.  Read a good book such as: Taking the Leap by Pema Chodron, or Start Where You Are also by Chodron.

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Don’t want to read?  Check out Brain Sync with Kelly Howell.  These CDs have music that incorporate meditation, binaural beats and subliminal messaging.  The topics cover the gamut of life experiences/issues including losing weight, attracting wealth, stress management, awakening Kundalini, etc.

Okay, I’m done.

Vacation: Jamaica

 

My brain doesn’t want to write. Why? ‘Cause I’m on vacay!  So, here’s a short blog in pictures on this Writer Wednesday.

Sweetsop Lady

Buying sweetsop coming down off the ‘hill’ in Portmore.

 

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Me at the top of the ‘hill’. Altitude? 1,000 feet about sea level. In Portmore Jamaica in St. Catherine.

 

Ackee Saltfish & Food

Breakfast after the major accomplishment of climbing the hill! Ackee and saltfish with ground food and boiled green bananas.

 

Port Henderson Bulkhead

We stayed at Callie’s Beach House in Port Henderson, right outside of Kingston. Hurricane Ivan came several years ago and this resort had to put up a bulkhead to protect their property from the encroaching Caribbean Sea.

 

The steep road heading down towards the sea in Portland Jamaica near Port Antonio.

The steep road heading down towards the sea in Portland Jamaica near Port Antonio.

#DiversityRocks in 2016: Black History Month

I am a woman of color. But, I refrain from saying it…out loud. I don’t need to. One glance at me and you know my ethnicity. It’s been like that all my life. It just takes one little look. The blinds come down in a Bay Ridge barber shop. Shutting off the view of a super cool vintage model car display from my two young brown sons.

The shock when I — Rochelle Campbell — who recently traveled to Ireland and worked as a Marketing Director walk into an executive’s office and their mouth drops open (literally). All it took was one little glance.

Or, when “cute” little Black Face dolls were put on my desk facing me by my non-Black employer. I was supposed to put them up somewhere. I refused to even touch them and walked out of the office.  I was barely 22 years old at the time.

BlackFace Tin Metal

Being Black, African-American, Caribbean-American, Asian, Indian or any person of color means that every day you leave your house you are judged. Yes, judged. How you walk. The clothes you wear. Your erudition. Everything is used to assess/calculate/ascertain where you may fall in the scheme of things to those that view us.

It gets to the point where you just pause and wait for the non-Black person to enter the building first — without thinking about it. Why? Because you’re on automatic.

As children, we learned through osmosis how to function when in ‘mixed company.’ We added “Miss” or “Mister” before the first name of a non-Black person. Why? It was a sign of respect.

Purging all of these internal, unconscious learned behaviors is TOUGH. So, tough that sometimes we unwittingly pass it on to our children because it’s so ingrained within our own psyches.

However, I’m not telling my fellow people of color anything new…am I?

It is February 2nd, 2016. It is #BlackHistoryMonth. It is a time for reflection, growth, renewal. It is time for new things. It is time for #DiversityRocks.

It is about time something as simple as a doll, a child’s play thing, by the preeminent doll manufacturer in the world to make a doll that reflects little girls of color.

Barbie Diversity_Jan 2016

 

It seemed to start with the Ava DuVernay doll; a gift for an awards show.  However, the demand exceeded all expectations.  While this particular diversity change may be more founded on financial gain, it is a welcome change for hundreds upon thousands of households with children who are not White.

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I’m going to wrap this up with one final thought (rant).  What the heck is wrong with #BlackGirlMagic?!

The Ava doll is #BlackGirlMagic!  It is empowering.  It is not a label depicting anything superhuman/supernatural.  It is not a rant at all against women of other ethnic origins, or races.  It is simply a way to complement ourselves about things we are proud of about ourselves; achievements we have made.

If a similar hashtag for other races of women are out there that are also magical — so be it.  My mother told me that imitation is the highest form of flattery…

Getting off my soap box now.

Rwandan_Ballet Dancers_BlkGirlMagic

Aren’t these young girls magical?  They radiate joy, confidence and a love of life! #BlackGirlMagic

My Secret New Year

Not that kind of secret! 🙂

I’m speaking of Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret.  I began reading it again in preparation for the new year.  I’ve read it in the past and implemented the positive viewpoint/worldview and affirmation to great effect.  I actually won $1K from a scratch-off game about 4 weeks after doing a visualization I created based upon reading this book.  Did I continue the visualizations?  Of course not!  Why?  Who knows.  Fear.  Confusion.  Avoidance.  Probably all of the above.

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Back to the present.  I kept feeling like I needed to read The Secret again.  So, I did and am.  I am feeling strong and happy — no matter what is going on.  Yes, I acknowledge a lot of activity and busy-ness occurred this past week.  However, I refused to see it as negative.  It is just the nature of a new thing — this year.  And, a direct result of people having been out of the loop for several weeks.  Everyone was pretty much back and wanted to jump right back in and wanted answers.  Totally normal.  Totally human.  The way I interpret things is very important for my own well-being.

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By using the ideas from the various teachers in The Secret, I was able to navigate my own inner emotional landscape.  This allowed me to get my work done without the extreme emotional responses that I usually experience when Life throws a dozen balls at me all at once.

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Even the folks around me all week noticed my grounded energy and my happiness.  Proof positive that this stuff works!  Another small confirmation: On Monday morning, my first day back in the office I had a package on my desk.  It was a book I requested back in October 2015.  What was the book?  Joyce Meyer’s Power Words: What You Say Can Change Your Life.  [You can’t make this stuff up!]

(Psst…I wrote a teeny bit about Power Words here.)

What have you learned/seen/understood when you used The Secret?

Symbols of Freedom

Lockets of Love on Bklyn Bridge

I sit here watching Star Trek, the “new” 2009 version with Chris Pine, Zoe Saldana, Zachary Quinto, et al.  I think about the future the truly colorblind future where creature, human, Klingnon, and all other manner of living being work together to explore the universe and spread peace.

Then, I turn my TV and find reports of The Donald, shootings on our students, the Pope bring together multi-denominational leaders, road rage that leaves a 4-year-old no longer living.  I see pain, suffering and the dementia of humans on a course that is not similar.  Yet, we are all on the same planet that spins inexorably and will not stop unless we blow it up.

What is our symbol of freedom?  Freedom from domination of extreme emotionalism that clouds reason which leads too pain and sorrow?  Where is the moral line that we will not cross no matter the color, creed, or sexual orientation of the person before us?

My current WIP is all about how people treat others because of their own personal needs.  Well, what happens when the mass of personal needs all coalesce into a plan of action that are to the detriment of others — whole race of others?  Where is the symbol of emotional freedom then?

There are no answers.  There is no black, or white.  There is no one answer.  As a group, we must figure out our collective future.  However, if we don’t function as a unified group but instead as a mass of splinter groups out for each group’s personal goals where will this scatter-effect of decisions take the one planet?

The image above are some people’s way of expressing their love and ‘locking it in’ forever.  Wonderful symbolism but…

Questions, questions and more questions.  However, will we have the loving answer in time for our children?  The ones who will inherit the joys of our collective madness?

Ta-ta for now,

The NoteBook Blogairy

Motivational Monday…or Motivational Life?

Reading Black.Bunched.Mass.Mom‘s latest post has put me in a reflective mood.

The images she has posted regarding her favorite quiet spot (by the water!) are so stirring.  They are bountiful pictures of Nature that feed my city-dweller’s soul.

From KC Wise’s Black.Bunched.Mass.Mom blog. Click picture to be taken to the original post post referred to in this post. Thank you KC for the peace!

What are we grateful for today?  Why are we grateful?  For waking up?  For having a fabulous cup of Pumpkin Spice latte from Starbucks because it’s finally Fall?

There are so many things to be thankful for — the big things, and the the little things.  We can be thankful/grateful for the train conductor who held the doors open for that extra 5 seconds so we could scoot on.  We can be thankful for that ingenious little stray cat in our neighborhood that has chased away rodents/vermin making our apartments/condos/homes that much more germ-free.  We can be thankful for the landscaper realizing they made a mistake on the invoice from last season and we’re due a credit/refund.  We can be thankful that the leak that we found some weeks ago is not as serious as we thought.  It’s a loose valve in the wall as opposed to a break in the pipe!

We can go on and on about the things we can be thankful for. (Like the extra words of words we writers were able to pen in the last few weeks as the summer comes to a close…)

Thank you Black.Bunched.Mass.Mom for making me STOP on my crazy forward driven city movement and having me smell the proverbial flowers.  (Wish I could smell the ones you picked!  They look so beautiful on your window sill.)

For other motivational quotes and thoughts try The Daily Grind.

Ta-ta for now,

NB

Thursday Zen

Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes.

No one is listening until you fart.

Always remember you’re unique. Just like everyone else.
Never test the depth of the water with both feet.

If you think nobody cares whether you’re alive or dead, try missing a couple of mortgage payments.

If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you.

Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach him how to fish, and he will sit in a boat and drink beer all day.

If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably well worth it.

Some days you are the bug; some days you are the wind screen.

Good judgment comes from bad experience, and most of that comes from bad judgment.

A closed mouth gathers no foot.

Generally speaking, you aren’t learning much when your lips are moving.

Experience is something you don’t get until just after you need it.

We are born naked, wet and hungry, and get slapped on our ass.  Then things just keep getting worse.

Sarah — thanks for sharing this today!  It is totally awesomely TRUE!