Sometimes raindrops are like mini pizzas…

Sometimes raindrops are like mini pizzas…

As they fall, they pelt you in the head and wake you up to new possibilities.  Okay, weird analogy but it woke you up, right?  And that’s precisely how Life is.  We go blithely along our merry little way thinking (careful of that word: thinking) that we have it all mapped out, planned out – efficiently.  With me?  Then, BOOM.  Something happens that is so left of what we expected that we’re dumbfounded.  All thinking stops.  We just have to pause in our forward movement and re-gain our balance because everything we were thinking previously clearly was not what was actually happening.  That’s Life.

When you think you know what’s happening, and then you find out that you never had a clue, what do you do?  How do you reconcile how off-base you were with reality?  That’s the conundrum, isn’t it?  It’s hard to face that our perceptions were wholly incorrect, or skewed.  But, this is what we need to know to correct ourselves and get us back on track with our true (higher) purpose.

We were all born to live out a great purpose.  Now, depending upon what you chose to come here to do, you may start earlier, or later in life on the path to achieve your true purpose.  But, when we get so off-track that Higher Power/God/The Creator/your preferred name here comes along and resets the whole show we do have to acknowledge our missteps and put a plan in place to ensure we don’t go that off-track again.

To help us do that, we can:

  • Create a vision board to help us remember our goals,
  • Write a poem that incorporates all of the aspects of what we need to recall to move forward,
  • Write an essay/letter to ourselves,
  • Create a life plan (based on the often used coach tool, The Wheel of Life) sectioned off into specific areas of our lives that we need to grow/develop/work on [you can use a loose leaf binder for it, or go digital],
  • Create a song to ourselves, for ourselves to help us remember and get through the rough patches where we tend to begin to stray away from our goals,
  • Sit and meditate using visualizations we put together to help us deeply seed our minds, and thoughts with the images of what we want to accomplish,
  • Sit and do deep breathing to fill our bodies with Chi (Qi)/light/ashe/energy/prana which will help us to remember and hold close our dreams, hopes and goals,

Or, we can choose to do nothing to get past the obstacle, or challenge that Life threw your way.  We could choose to ignore the message.  We are human.  We do have free will.  We can choose to take the comfortable way out and be “normal.”  (Whatever that means.)

It’s hard to “man up”, or “woman up;” to face our fears unabashed and move towards the unknown.  That’s damned hard to do.  And, for some of us, at particularly vulnerable times in our lives, it’s pretty impossible – or, so we would like to believe.  This is where picking something to do, at least one thing!, is important.  This one thing will help us focus and baby-step our way out of the challenge and towards our goals.


Good luck on your baby-stepping today, and every day moving forward.

Pressing Our Luck…

When the world seems a frightful place, your back is almost against the wall and you’re too scared to move left, or right — what do you tend to do?  Freeze?  Start planning?  Run?  Or, just faint away and let Fate do what it does?

Allowing others, or circumstance to dictate one’s Fate is not the way that will lead us to ultimate happiness.  What will is work.  Work towards what we want.  What we desire.  What we dream about.

How do we get there?  We have to sit down and think, plan then take action.  Action that will lead us inexorably to where we want to be.  But, those actions come with commitment and sacrifice.  The amount of passion we have for our end goal is how much effort and push we will give to our naysayers, and our own inner demons.  And yes, we will have to fight our inner and outer demons to get to where we want to be.  What’s more, the challenges will come when you least expect them.  In fact, you can almost guarantee the challenges will show up when you feel your weakest and most vulnerable.  This is the way of things.  This is when you are being tested.  Is this what you really want?  How badly do you want it?  Can you surpass this obstacle to achieve your goal?  This is what is being asked of you when you face down the thing that is preventing you from moving to the next step, or level, of your journey towards your goal.

Finding ways that you can motivate yourself to keep yourself going and moving towards the goal is what you have to find and remember to use when the challenge time comes.  For instance, if you know you get tiny prickles along your arms, or legs when you feel fear.  Visualize yourself with your favorite comfy sweatshirt on that keeps you feeling safe, loved and warm.  Bye-bye prickles!

Or, if you instead, you feel like you’re going to hyperventilate, learn a deep breathing technique.  Then, as soon as you feel the panic/worry/anxiety coming on — start doing your deep breathing exercise.  Get as much oxygen in your lungs as possible as you continue to do the thing that scares you.  That’s how you work through the fear, you pre-arm yourself with the “antidote” of your Achilles heel.  Even if on the first attempt at challenging your fear, you will get the hang of it and persevere the next time, or two.

You’ve had this challenge walking with you for a long time, don’t expect it to move over with a snap of a finger.  However, if it does — go with it!!  That simply means you’re good and ready to kick that things butt!

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This is what it truly means to press our “Luck.”  It’s not luck, it’s when preparation meets opportunity.

So, let’s do the work so we can get to our goals as soon as we can.

Ta-ta for now.

Vegan: Back-in-the-Day Healthy

Years ago, I was a vegan foodie.  I made ALL of my own food.  Yes, breakfast, lunch and dinner for my two boys and my husband.  We ate tons of tofu, veggies, pasta, a variety of grains, legumes and salads.  We even had a special littler concoction for getting our Omegas in.  Something like, fish oil, COQ10, water and an Emergen-C pack.  Stir and knock back.  We were so healthy, we glowed.

We religiously carried our Hyland’s Kids’ Kit with us everywhere we went.  This way, we were never caught unawares when a sniffle, a boo-boo, or a tummy ache struck.  Arnica gel was an absolute necessity (it still is!).  Anytime we had a fall, adult, or child, we’d whip out the Arnica gel by Bioiron and put on the cooling salve to immediately calm the pain and reduce the redness, or swelling fast.

And, who dared enter the winter season without a large dose of Nat Mur (say, 200c)?   Nat Mur kicks out the excess salt out of one’s body which helps one to avoid catching colds.  (Works for when you decide to indulge in Chinese fast food, too.  Kicks the salt right out.)

Those were my Golden Days of eating well, and paying attention to what went into my body.

However, I did not take into account the large amounts of soy (plant-based estrogen) I was ingesting.  Nor, did I think about the high amounts of gluten (plant-base source of high protein made from wheat flour) I ate on a monthly basis.

Now, 25 years later, I have a marked gluten sensitivity as well as an autoimmune issue where my body attacks healthy skin and forms blisters all over my body.

I am not blaming a vegan diet for my health issues.  I am saying I should have been more mindful in the quantities I ingested.  We all know the golden rule is moderation.  Tofu every day, sometimes 2 – 3 times per day (with each meal) was the order of the day because to feed a family of 4 on a strictly vegan diet with a hefty vitamin supplement monthly budget is a lot.

If you go Vegan, or already are vegan, I urge you to add lots of raw green veggies, fresh squeezed fruit and vegetable juices, stay away from the readily available processed vegan fake “meats” (which are full of gluten, soy and sodium!), and make your own foods from scratch.  You will be healthier, and much happier down the road.  And, yes, it’s a better diet for the planet.

Here’s a great vegan starter meal kit: This is to give you an idea of how you can structure your meals.  You can also glean some more from RealSimple magazine’s 20 Easy Vegan Dinner Recipes.  Oh, and One Green Planet has a list of 10 vegan recipes everyone should know how to make.  Number 9 is Veggie burgers and OGP offers several recipes for hearty burgers such as Zucchini and Corn burgers, Chipotle Maple Sweet Potato burgers, Roasted Beet burgers, and many more!  Go check it out here:

Whatever your diet may be, it’s always a good idea to mix it up and eat different foods each week.  If you eat the same thing over and over, this puts you in a rut and sets you up to binge on items that may not be best for you.  This is especially true if you’re on a restricted meal plan choice like the vegan diet.

Well, ta-ta for now,




Lion Princess, Hear Us Roar

When the world gives you lemons, what are you supposed to do?  Make lemonade.  Beyonce did a fabulous job at it.  But, the rest of us don’t have access to the samae resources as the Diva, do we?

So, the rest of us have to find other ways to be creative and go around the obstacles that Life throws our way.  It’s funny.  Life’s curve balls seem as if they are out to destroy us.  Losing a job, a limb, losing a best friend — all these things look like out and out loses, right?  But, what if the job would have lead to an even bigger lose?  Like because you have to travel for the job you’re in an accident while on a business trip?  What if you lose that finger but save the hand?  The arm?  What if that best friend was only after your connection to the boss?

But we can’t know what’s down a particular road.  We can only hope to understand the bigger picture.  Because there is a bigger picture.  Right?  I believe there is a Grand Plan for us all.  I believe we can tap into that plan by quieting our minds and bodies for at least 20 minutes while breathing deeply.  I believe we can find a quiet stillness within.  A stillness we can merge with to gain the merest scent of what our future holds.  And that’s all we need, a little whiff of what’s to come.  Because, if we know too much we might get in our own way.

But what about Divine accidents?  Do they even exist?  Things that happen to us that have no true place in the Grand Plan.  You were just in the wrong place, at the wrong time.  Or, innocently, you did something that unleashed an unexpected (disastrous) consequence?  What do you say/do then?

Does going into the stillness help?  Or, is that just a reminder of the pain and suffering you’re experiencing?  I wonder because Singh Kaur, a vocalist known for her angelic harmonies, died of ovarian cancer.  Yet, Kaur was a Sikh.  She followed the teachings of Yogi Bhajan, a master of Kundalini Yoga.  Bhajan commissioned her to record a series of mantras.  Her voice, her music, uplifted thousands across the world.  Yet, she died suddenly of ovarian cancer while in the process of giving light to the world.  Why??


Here we could inject the idea of a Divine accident.  One that has no fault to the person, or to the powers that be.  Kaur could have walked past one too many corners littered with smokers on a break.  She could have had an unexpected blow to her abdomen by a kid playing little league ball.  She could have had a predisposition for cancer due to the genetics in her family…one could do this all day.  However, there are no answers to be had.  A gifted, blessed voice came, then left too soon.  Yet, there is the music still left for us to enjoy, to use and to utilize for inner growth.

So, I say forget about it!  Leave the Divine accidents to those that need to deal with them.  Let us shake ourselves off, go within to the place of stillness and continue getting those hints of what is to come so that we can get back on our own particular path.  The ultimate goal is to achieve one’s destiny — whatever that might be.  Even if we are taken off-track momentarily, maybe we needed some time to slow down enough to hear what we previously did not.

Sometimes a Divine accident is needed to help bring us back to our path.  Therefore, does it still qualify as an “accident”?  You know, that whole the ends justifies the means thing?  Yeah, that.

I’ll leave you with the last musical offering from Singh Kaur.  [Did you know her name literally means the Lion Princess?]


Finding Balance in Dis-ease

Dear Friends,

In the past four weeks, you may have noticed that I have virtually disappeared from the social media world.  This is because I had a very sudden onset of skin eruptions.  On Wednesday, May 3rd, 2017, I was diagnosed with an autoimmune blistering disease; my immune system is attacking healthy skin cells.

As you can imagine, there are all types of day-to-day life decisions I now have to make, and new ways of functioning to consider and implement.  Why?  Because unfortunately, since skin is the largest organ of our bodies, it’s difficult to conceal all of the expressions of this condition especially in summer attire.  I have to wear long sleeves and long flowing skirts/full pants in order for my clothing not to irritate my skin.

I have to pad my desk edges, the seat edge of my office chair with soft material so that the regular everyday banging, rubbing, and friction our skin is used to dealing with, does not irritate and break out my new, more fragile skin, blisters.

I stopped counting the large blisters (aka: bullas) after the first eight big ones.  These 8 all formed within the 1st 2 weeks of this condition’s onset.  This included the biggest, a lightbulb-sized one on the side of my left arm at the tail-end of week 1.)

I have been to the dermatologist’s office, and the ER more times in the last month than I have been in the last 15 years.

This blistering disease is rare and most GP and ER doctors have only heard about it via textbooks, or a seminar, or two, while in med school.  Thus, making it difficult for them to help me deal with the day-to-day issues of the condition.  The main problem is the intense itch; it drives me to distraction.  In the last several weeks, I have figured out that movement greatly helps alleviate the desire to itch.  So, I move around a lot while working!

The medication prescribed will take 4 – 6 weeks to take effect.  So, in the interim, I’m still experiencing the effects of the blistering condition.

Please know that this condition is in no way contagious!  It’s not even genetic.  It is a condition that sometimes has no specific cause, or trigger.

Here’s more information if you wish to read about it:

There are three pictures posted below.  But, my friends, it’s not a pretty-looking thing especially when the bollas burst and they begin to draw, pull and crust over.  It’s especially not fun when more bollas form around the original site of the initial bollas!  The two pictures are of my right arm on May 12th, 2017.  The one on the left is at 12:12 am EDT.  The one on the right is at 7:39 am EDT.  The picture beneath them is what my arm looks like today — a week later.

In the days and weeks to come, I will be venturing back into the fray as my energies get stronger (and as the medicine kicks in!).  But, until that time, I will post infrequently.

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Today, 5/18/17 – one week later

Okay, it’s time for me to wrap up.  I suppose there should be wise words.  Some epiphany, or enlightenment.  Not sure I’m there yet.  Give me a few more weeks.

However, know that I am at peace.  I am as comfortable as is currently possible.  And, that each day, I know my body is healing and is finding its way back to balance.

Here’s to wishing you all a Happy Friday and a blessed weekend.